Who wouldn’t like to be more confident?!
It’s the most desired, intangible trait you can have. Believe it or not, it’s not overly complicated to attain.
Want to know the secret? Drumroll…
Achieve more.
That’s it?! Simple enough, right?
Think about the last time you were confident. It probably involved you performing and getting recognized for it. A lot of the times we do what we get noticed for. Not always a bad thing, but our ego is involved.
People who are self-confident achieve more. It goes hand-in-hand.
Take for instance one of my coaching-client conversations:
Client: “I’ve been in the same job for 5 years and hate it. I want to leave, but am afraid if I do I won’t have anything else. Can you help me make the transition?”
Me: “So you know I can’t promise you employment right? That’s a guarantee no one can make (unless they’re going to hire you themselves).”
Client: “Oh yeah, I don’t expect that, but I need a game plan…something to help me figure out if it’s worth taking the risk of leaving my current job.”
Me: “So you want me to help you with an exit strategy and give you tips on how to get into a new industry right?”
Client: “Yes.”
Me: “So what you’re really looking for is to gain more confidence so you’re willing to chase after your dreams.”
Client: “Exactly.”
When you set and achieve goals it builds momentum. It’s like that snowball rolling down the hill in cartoons. It starts small then gets bigger as it picks up speed. Start with small goals, achieve those, then become more ambitious in your pursuit(s). The more you achieve, the greater your confidence.
At the heart of what I do as a coach is build people’s self-confidence. That’s what I tell people when they call me from Yelp!
Growing Forward 