What Work Life Balance Really Means

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70% of people struggle with work-life balance, but what does that mean? Essentially it’s when either your personal or professional life is dominating the other. Here’s two examples, if you’re a career driven individual who finds yourself in your 30’s and out of the dating scene for a while because working overtime is the norm OR if you’re a stay home mom who manages a household of 5, but never has any time of your own that’s work-life imbalance.

Easy to identify, difficult to resolve. At the core of work-life balance is feeling a lack of control. Autonomy is one of our primary motivators in life, according to Dan Pink, so when our professional or personal life is overwhelming the other we feel like the victims of our consequences. The same reason why entrepreneurs start their own business is what the average person striving for work-life balance wants: freedom.

There’s a big movement in the entrepreneurial world that doesn’t involve making more money. It’s a little thing called lifestyle design. It means you want to spend your time doing what you want, where you want, when you want. Sounds like a glorified vacation, but it’s much more than that. Fast forward your life until you’re in your 80’s. If you looked back at your life at that point, what decisions would you wish you made differently? Probably anything that deals with spending more time WITH others or ON yourself. That’s why time, not money, is the most valuable currency.

If you’re still confused, let’s talk about the exact opposite of work-life balance: living with regret. People who struggle with work-life balance experience this “inner-tension” of feeling guilty for not taking action. As a Career Coach, most of the clients I’ve worked with over the past 8 years pay me to help them make a career transition, but you know what they really need help with? Confidence.

I can’t force anyone to do anything. That may not sound very marketable, but it’s the truth. I can make suggestions, but ultimately it’s up to the client how much effort, openness and passion they put into accomplishing the goals they set to achieve. But this is where work-life balance fits in. You know what your desired goals are, but you may not know how to get there. That’s where I come in. Work-life balance is about prioritizing. Goals aren’t the same. Some are more important than others. You are a specialist. If you were good at everything, you wouldn’t need anyone’s help. Therefore identifying your strengths, then maximizing them is crucial to achieving work-life balance because your strengths are a “means” to an end (your goals). Work-life balance is a constant challenge. In fact, it’s not a destination, it’s a journey. You need accountability, milestones and motivation to get there. I want to help.

Dreams: Size Matters

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How big are your dreams? Maybe a better question is how long will your dreams take to accomplish?

Life can be rough and as we get older our dreams tend to shrink in size…why is that?

Disappointment. Failure. Rejection.

No one likes to experience those feelings, but if you dwell in the past, thats’ where you’ll stay. Look at Carl from the movie UP. What he thought he was chasing wasn’t really what he wanted. You and I are inspired by dreamers and when we hear stories of people achieving their dreams it makes us re-evaluate ours.

Today is a new start. Jot down what you want to accomplish in the next year. They can be personal or professional goals, but whatever they are write them down. Now go and share them with someone so they can hold you accountable for your progress. Remember the bigger the dream, the longer it takes to accomplish. No one says to dream small, so stop putting limits on yours.

If you need help join me for this 8-week online bootcamp geared towards work life balance. What does work life balance have to do with your dreams? Everything. If you don’t have the time to work on and complete your dreams, what’s the point of having them in the first place? That’s what we’ll do together, free up time to make your dreams a reality. Sign up and let’s dream big, together.

Planning Your Next Vacation

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When’s the last time you went on vacation? When’s your next one planned? Sometimes life happens between trips and you either reminisce about past ones or dream about new ones. There’s nothing wrong with that, but what if life felt like a vacation?

Remember the commercial where two people are laying out in the sand relaxing on a deserted island? Life may never feel like that, but the idea of “freedom” does. Most of us work long hours with the hope one day we’ll be able to sit, relax and spend time with loved ones during retirement. But what if you have limitations when you get older? What current opportunities are you passing up instead of living in the moment? How would you live differently if you knew you were going to die in a year?

Sounds extreme, but it’s not. Money gives us this false sense of security, but it could be taken away as quickly as your health. You have a choice today to spend it the way you want to. No one is in control of it except you. That’s why I designed this 8-week online bootcamp geared towards achieving work life balance. During this course, not only will you learn about “carpe diem,” but you’ll actually live it!

Look Up In the Sky! It’s a Bird, It’s a Plane, It’s…

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Did you know that skywriting is usually an advertisement: personal, business or celebratory? It’s kind of like a modern-day status update on your favorite social network. You’re letting the public know something about yourself.

When’s the last time you answered “busy” for the question, “How’ve you been?” We say it like it’s a badge of honor, but why? Does it make us feel more important if we don’t have enough time in the day to do what we want? Seems contradictory doesn’t it?

What if I told you a program could help decrease your “busyness” and give you more control over how you spend your time? How much would that be worth to you? Well that’s why I’ve designed an 8-week online bootcamp geared towards achieving work life balance. Enrolling in this course means you want control of your most valuable currency: time. Get your freedom back and have more free time to do what you want!

I Want You…

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Time is money. We hire financial advisors to help us manage our money, but who helps us manage our time?

When you look back on your life, the last thing you’ll say is, “I wish I had more money.” But one of the first things you’ll say is: “I wish I had more time to do…”

Freedom isn’t just about liberty, it’s about power of choice. For example, you have the choice to continue down the current path you’re on or create a new one.

That’s why I created this 8-week online bootcamp to help you achieve work life balance. Time isn’t something you can rewind and get back. Once it’s gone, it’s gone. We all have the same amount of time in a day, but there’s extreme variance on how we use it. Let me be your freedom advisor and let’s get your freedom back America!

Ready. Set. Jump!

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Are you tired of the daily grind holding you back from pursuing your dreams? Sure, you have bills to pay and responsibilities to fulfill, but what if there was a better way to do it? How much would that solution be worth to you?

You’ll never know what could happen unless you’re willing to make the jump. Break out of the monotony and take the risk. Better to try than to live with regret. I coach people through career transitions all the time, but what my clients really want is much deeper than a new job. They want confidence, control and freedom.

That’s why during this 8-week online bootcamp geared towards achieving work life balance, we’ll discuss personal and professional challenges to ultimately get your freedom back. The investment is minimal when the outcome is optimal. I’ve already made the jump and I want to help you make the jump too!

How Much Is Your Free Time Worth?

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If you’re working, you know how much you make per hour, but do you know how much your free time is worth?

Since time is the most important currency, you need to factor this into your decision making. If you know how much your free time is worth: it will help you decide to skip an activity, pay someone else to help or complete it yourself. Find out the value of your free time here.

Based on that number, how does that influence your decision making moving forward? Controlling my free time is immensely important to me, that’s why I want to help you get your freedom back during this 8-week online bootcamp geared towards achieving work life balance. Join us because can you really put a price time on the investment in your personal freedom? Yes.

Winsight Episode 37: Healthy Addictions

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We all are addicted to something. For some it may be fitness. Others are to coffee. Some love certain TV shows. Whatever it is, there’s a deeper reason behind it. What is it that you’re addicted to?

As we move into the new year, this episode will explain how addictions can be a good things using the following points:

  • Why fitness can be your drug of choice
  • What routines represent in our lives
  • If you’re addicted to attention, how you can use it in a positive way
  • What’s at the root of addictions and why it can be a good thing

So what are you addicted to? How can you put a positive spin on it? Please share by leaving a comment below because you’re not the only one!

Winsight Episode 28: Value-Based Decisions

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I admit. I’m not great at making money. Does that mean I’m poor? Not necessarily. Does that mean I’m rich? Depends on how you define rich.

All I know is the most valuable currency to me is my time. The ability to control my schedule is what matters because I can prioritize what I spend my time doing. The other night my wife and I had a great conversation about personal and professional goals. I shared with her when I have talks with others, either the same age as me or older, somewhere in our discussion spending time with your kids while they’re young comes up. I thought about how much time I spend with my daughter who recently turned two and it brings a smile to my face.

In this episode hear my personal story of value-based decisions through the following examples:

Staying home vs. working a 9 – 5

The difference between mission/vision statements and actual behaviors

What “lifestyle” really means and how to pursue it

Plan A & Plan B: which one is really better?

What are your core values? Looking at how you spend your time, what do you really value? Please share a value-based decision you make and how it affects those around you.

Winsight Episode 24: Through the Eyes of a Child

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Recently my daughter turned two years old and we celebrated her birthday for about a week. When she turned one, we had a big party, but I doubt she really knew what was going on. This time though, she loved being the center of attention when people sang Happy Birthday to her; she ate it up. It was such a joy to watch the expression on her face and see how happy she was.

As a parent, there’s a lot I’ve learned from my daughter and wife. Here’s just a few: it’s no longer about you anymore. Routines becomes essential. Patience is necessary for your sanity. But of all the things I’ve learned one stands out to me more than the rest: being present.

In this episode I’ll discuss the following:

  • What effect the future and the past have on your present
  • How a short-term memory can be a good thing
  • How much control you really have
  • What worrying actually is and how you can control it

What’s been your personal experience with worry? How does it change by looking through the lens of a child’s perspective? Please share your thoughts below!