Accidentally on Purpose

Last night this Gen Y focused sitcom debuted on TV asking the question, “How should we handle our mistakes?”


1) Take Responsibility. In this day and age, we see public figures lie and avoid the truth by hiring lawyers and pleading the 5th. By denying something never happened, it usually means you are hiding the facts. We’re all prone to making mistakes so the next time you make one, ADMIT it!

2) Apologize. Is it that hard to say sorry? Push your pride aside and be humble. Whether you intended to hurt someone or not, ask for forgiveness. Regardless of their response, at least you did the right thing.

3) Learn & Move On. Time heals. If you’ve done steps 1 and 2, learn from your mistakes and get on with your life. Don’t bury yourself. Shame and guilt are self-inflicted feelings. Only you can release yourself from them. Don’t dwell on your shortcomings because you can’t change the past. If you don’t make the same mistake twice, you’ve learned and become a better person!

It’s not a matter of IF, but WHEN we make our next mistake. It’s how you handle your mistakes that shows your true character. Take responsibility, apologize, learn and move on! Sometimes a huge mistake can turn into a tremendous learning opportunity! Learn from it and continue to grow forward!

Happy Gilmore

Happy Gilmore was full of raw talent, but he needed help from several coaches throughout the movie in order to succeed.

Virginia helped him be more professional. Happy used foul language and inappropriate behavior on the golf course. She helped control his temper and think about what type of impression he wanted to leave on his audience.

Chubs provided training and skill development. Happy had a lot of power, but no touch. One part of his game was strong, but Chubs helped him with the other parts of his game that were lacking.

Grandma provided the motivation. Grandma’s house was evicted and the only way to get it back was to play golf. Whenever he got down on himself, he remembered his goal of playing: to save grandma’s house.

Happy Gilmore is a great illustration of the coaches we need in life. They give us perspective, knowledge and guidance. If you want to develop and grow forward, turn to a coach!

Broken Windows

Chief of Police William Bratton has produced extraordinary results in New York and Los Angeles. One of his successful strategies is the “Broken Windows” program. Here is a summary of the theory:

“Consider a building with a few broken windows. If the windows are not repaired, the tendency is for vandals to break a few more windows.
Eventually, they may even break into the building, and if it’s unoccupied, perhaps become squatters or light fires inside.

Or consider a sidewalk. Some litter accumulates. Soon, more litter accumulates. Eventually, people even start leaving bags of trash from take-out restaurants there or breaking into cars.”

The theory thus makes two major claims: that further petty crime and low-level anti-social behavior will be deterred, and that major crime will, as a result, be prevented.

What if we applied this theory to being professional?
This is what it would look like:

1) Pay Attention to the Little Details.
* Proofread your e-mails before sending

* Be punctual to meetings

* Dress to impress

2) Little Changes Produce Big Results.
* Communication is clear and concise

* People feel respected

* Great first impressions are made

Minor fixes cultivate major advances. People observe what we do more than they listen to what we say. Start today by paying special attention to the small things that make a big impression! Being professional means taking pride in the small things that make a big difference!

Don’t Take it Personal!

Hearing criticism is challenging to deal with. Regardless where it comes from, our natural reaction is to get defensive. On the other hand, without feedback, you cannot measure your performance. How would you benefit if you changed your perspective on feedback?

Listen Objectively. Feedback is tough to take because we filter it subjectively. We take it as someone judging us and we miss the message. Some feedback can be painful, but if you can hear the objective message, you can go forward from there.

Learn From It. “Whatever doesn’t hurt me, makes me stronger.” This statement is both true and false. Feedback can hurt, but there is much to prosper from. Get past your ego, improve and move on. If you don’t repeat the same mistake again, you’ve probably learned from it.

Sense of Urgency. Past successes easily produce complacency. We react negatively to feedback because we think too highly of ourselves. I’m not saying to have low self-esteem, but don’t think you’re above reproach. Everyone can get better, including you! Don’t bask in your past glories. Act with a sense of urgency by focusing on the critical issues and be driven to win now!

Feedback gets easier to take, when you welcome it. Think about it. You learn more from your past failures than successes. What worked before, won’t necessarily work now. Make this attitude adjustment and personal growth is just around the corner!

Flashy Lights

Last week I was in Vegas with my wife celebrating our anniversary. Once we got settled, I suggested we walk the entire strip. 4 hours and 7 miles later, I realized the hotels are so massive that even though they look close, they are actually quite far apart. A thought ran through my head…

“That’s just like BIG GOALS!”

We should all DREAM BIG. Don’t sell yourself short by setting goals that can be easily obtained. Where’s the FUN in that?

Along the way, there were times I wanted to quit, but my will wouldn’t let me. I kept my eyes on the prize. Sure, it took longer than I thought, but we PERSEVERED and eventually reached our destination.

I remember looking at our map at different hotels to get a sense of how much PROGRESS we were making. This helped us realize we were moving forward towards our goal.

After we got back to our hotel, we were tired. Was it smart to walk? No. Was the journey worth it? Yes. How else would we have known how long it was?

This journey is similar to our lives:
1) We all have BIG DREAMS

2) It takes TIME and PERSEVERANCE to accomplish them

3) It helps to chart our PROGRESS along the way

4) The FUN is in the journey

Just so you know we drove to every location after that, because we LEARNED from our mistakes!

REAL Leadership

We read about great leaders, but rarely do we get the chance to work alongside of them. Recently, I’ve had the pleasure of being able to experience two leaders up close whom I admire and respect.

Today I’d like to spotlight: John Dunn & Teresa Roberson.

John Dunn is the owner of Coast Produce.

Teresa Roberson is the Head of School at Calvary Christian School.

Here are just 3 traits that make them “great” at what they do:

Character: John and Teresa let their core values shine through them. They are more interested in developing their character, before their leadership abilities. They live what they say. When they speak, people believe them.

Relational: I watch the way John and Teresa treat and interact with others. They put people before tasks. They care about their workers and value each person’s well-being before their performance. They treat everyone with respect.

Humble: John and Teresa see the bigger picture. They do not think of themselves bigger than the organizations that they lead. They have their ego’s in check. They are grateful for the positions they are in and serve others accordingly.

Witnessing great leaders in person is rare. I am blessed to have worked under these two. Don’t try to emulate other leaders, instead learn from their example. Great examples of leadership inspire us to get better. Leadership is a process and we can gain much from observing those who are more experienced than we are. Who are you watching?

Culture Clash

Is it possible to produce change in a strong company culture?
The answer is “Yes”, but you have to be strategic and patient about your approach. Remember most organizations are still “vertical”, so here is a plan of attack that proactively influences from the bottom to the top:

1) Research & Learn
Start by identifying the root of the problem you are trying to solve. You can’t attack the problem until you know exactly what it is. Research case studies on your topic (every problem has existed before). Observe the company culture through the behaviors of veteran workers. Once you have brainstormed some possible solutions proceed to step two.

2) Ask for Feedback
Next, approach co-workers and share your ideas. See what their responses are. Use their praise and criticism to sharpen your formula. Think of this as a refining stage. Different perspectives provide new angles to construct a solution. When your concept is improved and ready to execute, move to the buy-in stage.

3) Build Alliances
Now that you’ve solidified a strategy, you’ve got to recruit people to share your perspective. For example, if you are going to a meeting and know the participants beforehand, meet with each person individually prior to gauge their interest level. This way you can predict how people will respond during the meeting and adjust your proposition accordingly. Once you have built a strong backing, it’s time for the final frontier.

4) Pitch Solutions
I always tell my clients, anyone can walk into their boss’ office and complain, but what leaders want to hear is solutions. Most likely they’re aware the problem exists, they just prefer to ignore it. They have enough on their plate, they want to hear what YOU will do about it. If you approach leadership with solutions and are willing to take initiative to implement your plans, leaders listen.

Change is hard. We are creatures of habit. Traditional culture is tough to break. Know this before you go into battle. Prepare your mind. Even with all your rehearsal, you cannot control the outcome. If you want to move up the corporate ladder, be warned there is much work ahead. Do your homework, learn from your community and solve people’s problems! That is being a catalyst for change.

Grow Forward, not Backwards

Do you believe the media reports that the economy is improving? Regardless what you think, let’s talk about what YOU can do about it. Picture yourself as a sprinter at the starting blocks…

Ready!
What is your personal vision? How innovative is it?
You can’t be successful if you have no destination in mind. Start brainstorming a 1-year vision for yourself NOW and be specific! Think ambitious. Go for what you want. Remember, “without a vision, people perish.”

Set!
In order to reach your vision you must set goals.
Not just any goals, but measurable ones. That means your goals must be quantifiable and attached to a timeframe. Think of your vision as the second floor of a house. In order to make it to the next level, you have to climb the steps. Those steps are the goals you set. Goals help break your vision into achievable steps (it also helps you chart progress made).

Go!
Most plans fail at the implementation stage
, not the vision stage. That means you can have lofty dreams, but if you don’t put in the hard work – you go nowhere. At this stage, accountability is a must. We accomplish greater feats when more people are involved. Stop complaining and start doing!

Ready, Set, Go is about being proactive. We cannot control the economy, but we can do something about it. Winners have a tenacious will to succeed and a plan to achieve. Your biggest obstacle to success is YOU. Stop observing on the sidelines and start playing the game!

I Hate Public Speaking

Until recently, I used to believe “speaking is just not my thing.” Being an effective communicator is arguably the most important quality a worker can possess. Anyone can improve his or her oral presentation skills. You just have to work at it.

In Tim Koegel’s book, The Exception Presenter, he states, “Delivering an exceptional presentation does not guarantee a win every time. But you should never lose because your presentation was less than exceptional.”

Today, I’d like to share the insights I’ve learned with you.

Preparation

Organizing your presentation
1) Tell them what you’re going to tell them
2) Tell them
3) Tell them what you just told them

Arrive 1 hour early
1) 40 minutes to prepare yourself (PowerPoint, notes, last minute details, etc.)
2) 20 minutes to mingle with the audience (learn as many names as you can)
3) Drink tea or warm water before you speak to loosen up your throat

Here’s a 60 second introduction to get you started
1) If you remember just one thing as you leave here today, remember this…
2) State your objective
3) Tell them your position
4) What the end result will be
5) Transition with the next step

The Presentation
1) Focus on the message and audience, not yourself
2) Imagine the audience with a remote control (15 – 30 second attention span)
3) Engage the audience by trying to make eye-contact with everyone
4) Smile and move around
5) Speak, pause, breathe and speak again

Anyone can become an Exceptional Presenter. It’s about having the right focus, preparation and execution. Take advantage of these tips and remember, every time you speak, it’s a free commercial about you!

Is Entitlement a Bad Thing?

In his book “Outliers”, Malcolm Gladwell defines entitlement as asserting yourself with people in authority. His statement forces us to take a deeper look into the stereotype of Gen Y Workers feeling entitled at work. Let’s look at the positive side of entitlement:

Being entitled means you have self-respect. If you don’t respect yourself, how can you expect others to respect you? When you have self-respect, others can sense it. Being treated with respect starts with how you treat yourself.

Being entitled means you view yourself as special. Gen Y is motivated to make a difference in the world. The United States is also the most individualistic-driven country. Each person has unique talents that are waiting to be maximized. The key to increasing productivity is finding where each worker “fits” within the organization. Think: the right strength in the right place at the right time.

Being entitled means you are worthy of attention/interest from others. Part of succeeding in the corporate world is being “noticed” for the right reasons. If you don’t do something “extraordinary” to stand out from the crowd, don’t expect to ever be promoted. As an employee, give management a reason to look. It you believe you are deserving of your supervisor’s favor, back it up with results and you will position yourself to be an irreplaceable asset to the company.

Entitlement at work can be a good thing.
Gen Y Workers: Expect great things and perform accordingly!

Managers: Challenge your workers to higher levels of performance!