As a planner I prefer to be in control.
When I’m not it’s scary.
But when you think about, how much of your life are you really in control of?
You have the power of choice, but you can’t control the outcome. In fact you can drive yourself insane second-guessing what you should have done in retrospect.
The best advice (but probably the most uncomfortable) is to trust the process.
Easier said than done, but if you’ve done your research, taken multiple factors into account, pull the trigger and don’t look back.
Take for instance sports: when you make a play sometimes it works out in your favor and sometimes it doesn’t. If you feel uncertain in the moment, most likely the result won’t be favorable. On the other hand committing to a plan of action and living with the outcome gives you a sense of peace.
As a recovering control-freak myself, I realize the more I try to control the less I actually am.
Pair that with the fact my wife is very spontaneous and carefree and it can drive me to anxiety if I don’t take a step back.
As a coach I tell my clients to focus on creating good habits that are repeatable. Goals are good, but creating routines that lead towards your desired lifestyle are better.
Funny thing is sometimes I need to listen to my own advice.
If you’re unsure about an aspect in your life such as your career or a relationship, look at how you spend your time. Examine your priorities. Understand the way you process.
Uncertainty can be looked at in two ways: negatively or positively.
You can choose to be anxious or excited. The former will drive you crazy while the latter comes with anticipation.
For your mind and body’s sake (and health), choose the high road.