Top Tips For Meeting New Friends As A Busy Adult

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Making friends as an adult can be more of a challenge than it was when you were a child. As children, we make friends at school, but as an adult, it’s more difficult. It can be hard to meet like-minded people to make friends with if you’re single, don’t have roommates, work freelance, or have moved somewhere new for a job or a relationship. Here are some ideas to help you meet and make new friends as an adult.

Find meetups for your interests 

Joining something new doesn’t always have to be as formal as a club or class. Look online for meet-ups for things you’re interested in. Do you love to play Dungeons And Dragons? Do you love watching action movies, or reading historical fiction? There’s probably a meet-up you can go to online or in person. Check forums and local newspapers for some ideas. 

Take a class

Always wanted to learn how to make your own clothes or how to bake cakes? Join an evening class. Whether you’re learning a language or car repair, you already know that you have something in common with everyone in the class. Be friendly, and chat to people in your class. Suggest a drink after class to someone who seems nice, and you could soon become great friends. 

Ask your existing friends

If you have some friends in the area but want to meet more people, ask the friends you already have to introduce you to their friends. This can be very effective, especially if you’ve moved to a new city where you only know a handful of people. Ask if you can join them when they meet up with other friends. If your friends like these people, there’s a good chance you will too. 

Join a club

A club of some kind, whether it’s a sport or a book club, can be a good way to meet people. Sign up for five-a-side football, a book club, or a motorbike club, and you’ll be swapping stories and recommendations for sports gear, books, and Motocross Accessories in no time. Like joining a class, invite people from your club out for a coffee or a glass of wine when the club finishes for the day.

Look for support groups

If you’re struggling to make friends because of a challenge like being a carer to elderly parents, or after a move due to a divorce or bereavement, you could look for a support group for people in your situation. This can be work well, as not only will you be able to get some much-needed support, but you’ll also meet people who understand your situation. You can skip the unpleasant stage of meeting new people where you have to answer difficult questions about your life, as everyone in the room has the same experience. There are support groups for all kinds of things, from living with a chronic condition to being a struggling new mum. 

Making friends as an adult takes some bravery and putting yourself out there. Bite the bullet and meet someone new.

The Things That will make you know you’re officially an adult

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Of all the things we were taught in school or by our parents, the biggest thing was that there is no real moment in time where you truly know you’re an adult. Physically, you could get to 80 years old but still feel mentally as you did at 21. 

However, there are some real home truths that will remind you that you’ve made it to adulthood on a daily basis that will have you thinking ‘yeah, OK, I guess I’m an adult now…’ 

If you read some of these things below and find yourself agreeing aloud- welcome to the crew. You made it. It’s OK, really…

You Got Bills (and mortgage, tax, insurance, car maintenance)

When you were a kid and starting to look at jobs you may have looked at jobs and thought of all the wonderful and fun things you could buy with a $18k salary after you left college. But for an adult facing the stark reality that if you want to keep a roof over your head, $18k really isn’t going to get you very far at all. That’s a harsh reality of adulthood–your entry level job may not give you the lifestyle you wanted. You get your salary in your bank and then it’s stolen by rent, utilities, your car, and then you’re left with pennies at the end of the month. Having too much month at the end of the money is one of the biggest signs that you’ve unlocked the adult achievement. 

You Relish The Thought of Being On Your Own 

You work hard all day and then might spend time crammed up against people on the train on the way home so the thing you crave most is being on your own. Kids hate the idea of doing anything on their own, but by the time adulthood comes, you feel lucky if you can spend a few hours  on your day off at https://www.laurelridgeexperience.com/golf-course rather than having to do boring things like clean your car or go grocery shopping. Dull! 

When a spouse and/or kids come along — you can forget it! 

You Can Eat Whatever You Like–But You Don’t 

If you have kids, then you know that if you ask them ‘What do you want to eat?’ they will reply with a list of all of the things that scream ‘blood pressure meds’ or ‘high blood sugar’. Yes, you’re in charge of the grocery shop now, but you know that if you eat like a literal child let loose in the candy shop your aged body will not thank you. Eating poorly as you get older will make you realize exactly why your mom would enforce the occasional broccoli floret on your fork as you navigate through dental and medical bills to boot.

All in all, the realization that you have become an adult isn’t so bad. You get to earn your own money, eat what you want and drive a car- what could be better than that?