1. Single vs. Promotion – Context people. 41% said they would end a relationship for a life-changing promotion. Those are single people talking. For those who are in their 20’s and career matters more, you aren’t interested in a relationship anyway. For those who are in their 30’s, men and women differ on this, the pressure you feel to get married and start a family will change your answer. Hypothetical vs. reality is much different. Career may come before relationships for Millennials, but it doesn’t mean they don’t care or that stereotypes are accurate.
2. I’m Picky – Same as when people respond, “he/she’s not my type.” That’s your ego talking. Why admit you’re hurt? Instead blow it off, blame someone/thing else or defend your standards. Relationships are about compromise, but don’t confuse that with settling. People who reach their 40’s and are still single are unwilling to change their lifestyle. They say they want to find someone, but what they really want is to live on their terms. No matter how self-confident you are, anyone can leave you. Living in fear isn’t the answer, but understanding it’s more about what you give than receive in a relationship is healthy.
3. Time to Settle Down – 35 is the average age based on what? Reality shows like the Bachelor, Married At First Sight and Are You The One are far from it. Saying you’re ready for marriage isn’t like stating you’re hungry. Timing is the biggest factor. You can’t force something to happen if it’s not there. “35” may be your ideal age, but your partner may feel differently. Expectations lead to disappointment. It’s fine to have them, but similar to a business plan you better be ready to pivot. Once again this is based from an “I” statement. Problem is a relationship is a “we” scenario. Rather than focus on an age, focus on the person you want to be with and go from there.